A United Front Testimony: Judy

A few months ago I discovered that my husband of 42 years had been going to see prostitutes (he found them over Craigs List on the internet) and I also discovered that for yeas he had been meeting men at peep shows and committing nasty behavior. I was devastated. My husband was actually discovered in this infidelity by our oldest granddaughter and my daughter who read an e-mail that he left on a computer. Because of the way he was exposed, I did have other members of the family aware of the situation. I would have never wanted to share this type of information with them, but God knew I needed the back-up of my family to help me through. From the beginning, I ask the Lord to help me and show me the action to take. I believed that I had Biblical reasons to divorce my husband, but I kept seeking God because I wanted to make sure I had the best solution ordained by God. As soon as my husband was discovered, he begged for my forgiveness and declared that he hated his secret life and would never do it again. My husband and I each went to Christian counselors. The counselor recommended that I take this course. So, I began the long process of digesting and considering the lesson plans. I took much longer than 60 days, but I continued on. At times in the course I was angry at what I read....I believed that the course misused some scriptures about submission to husbands and took the scriptures out of context. I almost stopped the course several times. My mentor was great and walked me though it all. She counseled me to take the good part of the course and leave the rest. As I continued the course, something great happened to me. I began to see my own sin and failures in our marriage. As I accepted these as my own sin and failure, asked forgiveness and cast them on the Lord, I was free. The course has been a tremendous help to me. As to my husband, I am so thrilled to report that he is a changed man. He has become all that I ever hoped he would be as the spiritual leader of the home. For most of his adult life, he had doubted that there was a God, even though he went to church with me. He now prays daily (alone and he comes and prays for me on his own initiative), he read the Bible daily and shares with me what he reads; he has become a man of God in a way that is truly beyond my expectations. After 42 years of dealing with the stubbornness of his doubt as to the reality of God in our daily lives, I had lost faith that he would change. However, as his sin and sexual addiction advanced to this terrible place where he went to a secret life of illicit sex, where he wallowed in the dregs of life, he reached the end of himself, and he then rose up and was changed completely through the power of God. I must say that he had 3 or 4 slips during the first few months after he decided to change for good. God allowed me to know of these slips each time. They were the hardest thing for me to deal with. Somehow God gave me the grace to go forward and the course helped me see what I should do in the situations. We never separated although we were so close; my husband kept leaving the choice to me but he begged me to let him stay. Anyway, long story made short, God is amazing and His love and compassion never leave us, and His perfect plan has been played out to bring my husband and I up from a firey pit onto steady, solid, ground. My husband and I are closer and happier than we have ever been. This course, and especially my mentor, helped me tremendously. My mentor always seemed to know just what to say to me. I looked forward to hearing from her and checked my e-mail often to see what she had to say. Thank you SCF for this course and program.