A United Front Testimony: Anne

When I came to Setting Captives Free, my life and my marriage were shattered by my husband's sinful choices. He had dug a pit and had gotten trapped in it. In the pit, he was blind, and thought everyone else was wrong. The pit of pornography is a "secret" sin. However, the devastating effects on our family were obvious: a husband and father who was aloof, selfish, secretive, angry and uninvolved in our family. I knew something was desperately wrong, but didn’t know what it was. The day I found out what "IT" was, was the most devastating day of my life. Little did I know, it was also the beginning of something good.

In my desperate search for help, I found The Way of Purity course at Setting Captives Free. My husband agreed to take it. I knew I needed something to help me get through this terribly dark time in my life, and discovered A United Front. I was comforted by the letters and testimonies of other wives who had gone through what I was facing. I knew, firsthand, the hurts they faced. The compassion and hope found in Jody's responses drew me in. This was a lady who really knew God. I wanted to be where she was. Little did I know how much God would use A United Front to open my own eyes. I had read the book, The Excellent Wife about four years earlier, but this time there was something different. There is something about this course, and being accountable, that transformed me. I realized how much I needed to change. Bitterness, anger, and wrong, unbiblical thinking were all sins in my own heart. Before this course, all I could see was my husband’s sin. I thought his sin was so horrible that it far outweighed any "little" sins I might have. Besides, I was justified in being angry and hurt. Oh, how wrong I was. I learned that God doesn’t like my sin, either, and I needed to change.

Little by little God used the courses to transform both of us. As I followed what He said and implemented the Biblical principles outlined in the United Front course and my husband did the same in The Way of Purity course, our lives started to change. We confessed our sin to God and to each other. We recommitted our lives to God and to each other. We humbled ourselves to God and to each other. Our love for God and each other grew and grew.

Today, if you would see us, you wouldn't recognize us from who we were. God has transformed us. He has restored the "years the locusts have eaten." Those empty, famine-type years have been replaced with a fruitful garden. I love and respect my husband more than ever before. He loves and cherishes me as never before. He is no longer aloof, angry and uninvolved. I am no longer bitter, hurt and angry. We care about each other, pray earnestly for one another, and take a deep interest in each other's lives. My husband is now sacrificing his time, his life, for me and for our family. He is giving and gentle and kindhearted. I praise God for these courses. He has used them to open the eyes of two "blind" people and set us free! Thank you God! Thank you, Setting Captives Free!