A United Front
Letters from Spouses
Stop Having Sex?
Hi Janis,
My name is Jody. I am the wife of Mike (the founder of Setting Captives Free). I'm sorry for the struggles with your husband losing his job and then your discovery of his involvement with pornography. But be encouraged....if Ricky is enrolled in The Way of Purity Course then by God's grace he may find freedom. May God make it so.
I can relate to your statements about trying to fix things with sex; I struggled in a similar way in my past. But here's the thing, in my past, I had immoral sex (sex outside of marriage) and it was sin no matter what the reason for having sex was.
Now, I am married and it is good to for me to have sexual relations within marriage. It is good to frequently have pure sex with our own husbands (meaning no porn, other people, or pain involved) for whatever reason. Indeed, Scripture refers to the comforting power of sexual relations several times. Here are a couple of examples: Gen 24:66 (Rebekah comforts her husband Issac sexually after the death of his mother); 2 Sam 12:24 (David comforts his wife Bathsheba sexually).
1 Cor 7 tells us that we are not to separate from our spouse sexually except by mutual consent for the purpose of prayer and drawing nearer to Christ and then it is to be only for a time. Otherwise, we are giving the Evil One a foot hold in our marriage....not something any of us wish to do. Sexual relations within marriage are good, right and necessary to keep the evil one away.
I hope this is helpful. Did I answer your question? Feel free to write to me anytime.
grace to you,
Jody
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