A United Front
Letters from Spouses
Encourage Without Words
Dear Tammy,
I can understand your pain. Mike denied me sexually over and over while he was involved with porn and even when he began walking in freedom there were times when he still withdrew from me sexually for one reason or another. It is painful to be denied physical intimacy, and it is also sinful of Larry since Scripture teaches that the husband is not to deny his wife. Mike is going to address this issue with Larry along with the fact that Larry wants you to dress skimpy in public.
Regarding encouraging without words, it can be done. You can pray for Larry. Pray that God would soften his heart and give him true and lasting freedom. Pray that God would soften Larry's heart towards you. Pray that your heart would be softened towards Larry. Pray for strength to endure.
Another way is to be content. Quiet contentedness is so beautiful, Tammy (1 Peter 3) and it is a big encouragement to a man. This was a big struggle for me when Mike was coming out of sexual impurity. I had to become content with Christ alone and to learn to keep my eyes focused on Christ so that I would not be obsessed about Mike and end up driving him crazy.
Now, I'm not sure if you meant what you said about leaving your husband if he doesn't get his act together but I do have to address it because you said it. To leave your husband would be sinful. To my knowledge, you do not have biblical grounds for divorce or separation at this time.
Tammy, there is hope you just cannot see it right now. God has a plan and He is working it out. Trust His heart and do not trust in your own understanding but acknowledge Him and He will guide and direct you (Proverbs 3: 5-6).
I am praying for you. I do care.
grace and love,
Jody
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