A United Front
Letters from Spouses
Christ, Our Rock
Dear Donna,
I will try to mail the book out this week. I hope it is helpful to you.
The only reason I suggested that you obtain current proof is because I thought you said that he is now denying any involvement with porn, etc. If he is denying it now then I believe the only way to confront with authority is to have proof that he is currently lying. However, I want you to know that I appreciate your heart on this matter in that you are wanting to wait on the Lord and to do things His way. Amen to that.
It is great to hear of the softening of hearts on both accounts (yours and his); God is so gracious. I am praying that the Truth will be revealed in your situation.
I have a question about your husband's computer. Are you saying that he has a camera on his computer to monitor it and that you are not allowed access to his computer?
With respect to my husband's bondage to pornography, I did not actually have to live with Mike for all the 15 years that he was involved with porn; but for the time that I did have to live with it....it was difficult and very hurtful-that is why I sought the counsel from my pastor (who is also a Nouthetic counselor--see www.nanc.org). Through his biblical counsel, I was able to grow in Christ and I am now (by God's grace) better equipped to respond to my husband's sins and shortcomings in a way that is honoring to God instead of in the flesh.
One major principle that I learned is that my inner joy must be in Christ alone. My husband Mike is wonderful and greatly loved by me but he is also an imperfect sinner. Christ on the other hand is Rock solid, never changing, and always dependable and perfect. So, while my heart hurts whenever my husband sins against me, it does not despair because my hope is in the Lord! God is in control of all things including our husbands (even when they are sinning) and if we love Him then we can trust in Him that He is working it all out for our good and His glory. Amen.
Hang in there, Donna, and feel free to write any time.
grace and love to you,
Jody
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